6 Thoughtful Ways to Support Your Spouse

My baby sister is getting married in a couple days, and I am so excited for her. In honor of her upcoming nuptials, I thought I would do a marriage-themed blog post. Below are 6 Thoughtful Ways to Support Your Spouse. Marriage means loving someone else more than yourself, and loving God even more than that. It’s not easy. It takes work, but it’s definitely worth it.

1. Prayer

The number one most thoughtful way to support your spouse is to pray for them. As much as we would like to be able to fix every little problem our spouse might have, we are simply not enough. That’s the honest truth. We are not enough, but God is. He can and will intervene in your spouse’s heart in ways you will never be able to. Praying for your spouse might feel like you aren’t doing enough, but it’s actually the most important thing you can do for them. Before you act, pray. Before you speak, pray. Put God first in your marriage and He will do wondrous things.

2. Learn Their Love Language

The second thoughtful way you can support your spouse is to learn their love language. Everyone gives and receives love different. For example, my love language is quality time. I love being around the people I love, even if we aren’t talking. Just having them around fills my cup. Luckily, my husbands love language is the same, but your spouse’s might not be. They might need words of affirmation or your help around the house. Loving your spouse in their love language will show your support in a much deeper way. To learn more, take the love language test HERE.

3. Give Them Your Full Attention

We live in a world of distraction, from crying babies to smart phones to television to dinner burning on the stove. Distractions are everywhere. When your spouse is talking to you, give them your full attention. Now, I understand this is not possible every time they speak. However, I encourage you to make eye contact and listen without multitasking when it is possible. The laundry can wait. Instagram can wait. Support your spouse by showing them how important they are to you with undivided attention.

4. Speak Highly Of Them

Being married is not easy. There will be days when you are angry at your spouse. You will want to call someone and rant about how difficult they are. I know, because I have done it. Multiple times. But the truth is (and I’m preaching to myself here), ranting to others about how upset you are with your spouse does more harm to your marriage than it does good. When talking to others, speak highly of your spouse. Praise them. Applaud all the wonderful things they are accomplishing and how hard they work. Support your spouse by speaking highly of them.

5. Plan a Date Night

Making date night a priority is an excellent way to support your spouse. And I mean a proper date night. Not a mad dash to the grocery store and fast food in the car. Continue to date your husband or wife no matter how long you are married. People grow and change, life happens and there is still so much you have to learn about your significant other. Never allow yourself to get lazy and forget to date your spouse.

6. Check in Once a Day

The final of 6 Thoughtful Ways to Support Your Spouse is to check in once a day. Take at least ten minutes in the morning, over lunch or even right before bed. Give them your full attention and talk. Actually talk. How can you be praying for them? What do they need? Did anything exciting happen? Touch base and check in with your spouse. That simple act is a thoughtful, but profound way you can support your spouse.

Thank you for reading 6 Thoughtful Ways to Support Your Spouse. I hope I was able to bring you a little help and encouragement. For more about hygge living check out these posts below:

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Love always,